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therapist and author of “The New Monogamy:
Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity.”
“The date could be initiated purely for sex, to
compensate for a low sex or sexless marriage.
Others are looking to find a deeper connection,
one that they feel has been lost in their marriage.
For emotional intimacy seekers, the first date tends
to be more conversation driven, which then eases
them into the sexual affair.”
SINGLE AND READY TO MINGLE DURING A
PANDEMIC
So how are single people dating? Meeting in real
life has been replaced by going back to dating sites
for people who previously hated dating sites, and
then having the first date via Zoom, Skype or
FaceTime.
Melissa Hobley, chief marketing officer at
OKCupid, told us that sign-ups have soared since
the pandemic started in March, with people signing
up throughout the world in
droves. “It’s free so you have nothing to lose,”
she says.
After the initial photo exchange, people either
go on FaceTime, Skype or Zoom, where a new
phenomena known as “getting zoomed” occurs
where if someone doesn’t like the way you look
and you get virtually dumped.
Meeting at the grocery store is also a new thing,
since it’s one of the few places to go. A cousin of
mine met someone at the cheese section in Whole
Foods while they were both wearing masks. He
thought she was funny and had nice eyes, but when
they met and took their masks off he didn’t like her
mouth! So if you meet someone you’re interested
in, have them remove their masks so you can get
a good look at what you aren’t supposed to be
kissing during the pandemic.
Since going out on dates these days is
challenging, another new place singles are mingling
is at protest marches. Yep, it worked for me once.
At the Hollywood Writer’s Guild strike back in 2007,
I accidentally hit some guy on the head with my
picket sign, and it was love at first sight.
Me: “Oh, I’m so sorry, are you OK?”
Him: “I’m OK, at least you didn’t give me a
concussion.”