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Most of us can’t help but compare our bodies, technique and performance
with that of a third party. Other concerns include fear of emotional attachments.
In fact, many couples I work with report feeling closer to one another after
a threesome, as it was a shared experience where they genuinely put their
partner’s needs ahead of their own. An unintended emotional attachment
seems to be a rare occurrence.”
If You Can’t Have a Threesome, Watch One
For couples who are terrified of the unknown, she suggest taking baby steps
into the three-way by “extracting the emotional elements of the threesome”
without actually doing it: for example, going to a swinger’s sex club and
watching other people having threesomes; having a “plus one” watch you
but don’t touch; or watching porn.
When in doubt, go pro. Crystal Cooper, a courtesan at the Mustang Ranch
in Reno, Nevada, says that “many couples who want to try a threesome for
the first time and are afraid go to the Ranch” for a safe introduction. “We get
a lot of couples,” she says. “Sometimes the couples are so nervous they are
shaking with excitement.”
Three-Ways Rule
Once you’re actually lucky enough to land a threesome, you have to set
rules and boundaries beforehand for things you want to do and don’t want to
do. Tell the two other people, “It’s okay if you do this, but it’s not okay if you
do this.” (E.g., “It’s okay if you lick my ass, but it’s not okay if you take a shit
on my glass table.”)
While three-way porn is a good to watch before you actually have three-
way sex, Milhalko says that sometimes porn “gets right to the hardcore sex,”
but sex in real life, especially three-way sex, requires a lot of “build-up” and
“warm-up.” Discussing expectations, agreeing upon rules and confronting
fears will dispel the nervousness. It’s about “negotiating the awkward,” he
says.
If You Need Inspiration …
Director Axel Braun reports, “The most awesome three-way scene I ever
shot was in Captain Marvel XXX: An Axel Braun Parody. I mean, it just
doesn’t get any hotter than having Captain Marvel (Kenzie Taylor), Jean Grey
(Lacy Lennon) and Deadpool (Seth Gamble) banging each other silly in full
costumes, and staying completely in character.”
He says, “The chemistry between them was insane, to the point that when I
yelled ‘Cut!’ they literally didn’t hear me and kept going for another 12 minutes.
I almost felt like I was a peeping Tom through the window of somebody’s
bedroom. Needless to say, the scene is epic.” And it was nominated for Best
Three-Way Sex Scene – Girl/Girl/Boy at the 2020 AVN Awards.
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