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I’ve talked before about having a privileged
position in porn by being a female director. I
think my male colleagues are envious because
it is just natural that a female performer would
have more built-in trust for me. That’s not to
say I’m not responsible for earning everyone’s
trust, but it comes a little easier when you’re a
little better at picking out lingerie.
But how do I work with men, and am I
sometimes tempted to touch their junk?
The answer to the first question continues
to surprise me. I’m “five-foot-nothing,” as my
U.K. friends say, and I’m not old enough to be
any performer’s mother, yet porn dudes are in
the habit of calling me “om.”
They like working with me. Maybe they like
that I tell them what to do. Maybe they’re
relieved that they don’t perceive me to be
in competition with them for the woman
they’re fucking (little do they know!). Or
maybe my telling them what to do, while
they’re naked, turns them on a little. Maybe
they want to impress me. Either way, I love
working with men.
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For example, I can say, “Be more sensual with
her” to a guy, whereas my partner, Gazzman, will
say, “NOW KISS HER!”
And I’m not saying this just because it’s AVN,
but I never wish I were in the porn girl’s place or
fantasize about—I don’t know—Tony DeSergio
carrying me away. We’re friends, but I am utterly
uninterested in porn dudes. I think that might be a
thing that the outside world doesn’t get about porn
directors: sleeping with the talent isn’t our priority,
or why we’re here.
That being said, occasionally I’ll be arranging
some bodies on a bed, or on a table, or over a
balcony wall, or whatever and I’ll feel a big dong
slide across the top of my head (Remember: I’m
small and the guy will apologize and I’ll be all like
“wwwww.” r I’ll want to put a guy in a different
position and will try to avoid touching his junk—after
all, we’re professional, and he is getting paid to have
his junk touched by someone else, not me—but
then he’ll say, “h, please, you can touch it”
Granted, this is an absolutely fine example of
consent on a porn set, but you should never try it in
a bus station. Regardless, I just point, or use a stick.