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Amber Rose Show with Dr. Chris.
She says they have “pushed each
other to dismantle and challenge
the problematic forces that oppress
people’s true sexualities.” Plus,
she says, “Chris works tirelessly
to challenge slut-shaming and
sexism.” We’re just glad someone
is working on it.
“Ask for the type of sex you want,
never allowing a partner to sexually
shame you,” the book advises.
Instead of buying into the bullshit
that men are studs and women
are sluts, there is no such thing as
a “slut.” Instead she is “sexually
confident,” which sounds much
more empowering.
Body self-acceptance is another
rebellious concept he addresses.
It’s the perfect resistance to people
getting plastic surgery to look good
in their Instagram selfies. “Focus
on the moment,” he tells his clients,
“not what you look like. That will
bring you pleasure.”
“Dr. Chris,” as he is known, is
a former licensed social worker
turned certified sex therapist and
Ph.D. who sees private clients and
took over for Dr. Drew when he left
KROQ’s Loveline call-in radio show.
He traces his own sexual story in
the book, revealing his own honest
revelation that at one point he also
found himself attracted to men. His
work has roots in “feminism, social
justice, and queer theory” and his
wisdom is perfect for anyone, no
matter what their sexual preference
is. “Prioritize relationships and
intimacy,” he says, “more touching,
more kissing, more hugging,” even
if you’re not a hugger. “All-day
flirting leads to better sex,” he says.
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And what does he think about
porn? “Watch porn together,” he
says. In his therapy practice he sees
that “porn helps save relationships
because they give the higher sex
drive partner another sexual outlet
that still honors monogamy.”
The book also explores non-
monogamy for anyone who wants
to be in a “thruple,” and helps out
the single people out there. ”Don’t
be boring,” he says. “Go out of your
comfort zone. Even if you work a lot,
date more.”
The book also addresses consent
and encourages everyone not to
be an asshole. “If you consistently
push people beyond their sexual
limits, play the texting game, or
ghost people,” he says, “you need
to work on yourself. Oh, and “be
more sensitive when you break up
with someone.”
Rebel Love is a helpful and healing
guide that will lead you to a happier
love life. The book is published by
Running Press.