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TECH NEWS
YOU ARE GETTING HORNY
Exploring the art of erotic hypnosis
‘TO ELIMINATE
NEGATIVE
THOUGHTS THAT
CREATE STRESS
AND ANXIETY, YOU MUST
DISCONNECT
YOUR MIND
FROM YOUR
BODY.’
—DR. AVA CADELL
SEXPLORATIONS | By Anka Radakovich
HYPNOSIS IS A FORM OF MIND CONTROL used to
alter someone’s state of consciousness. Used in a
sexual context, the goal of “Erotic Hypnosis” is to
reduce inhibitions, eliminate shame and guilt, and
increase sexual arousal by surrendering to sexual
pleasure. Once the shame and guilt are gone, feel
free to do the weird shit.
Also called “Hypno Sex,” the practice is used
for a range of activities, including picking up girls,
delaying premature ejaculation, preparing mentally
for hardcore BDSM, and making girls have “forced
orgasms” on cue.
In the 1950s, Milton Erickson, an American
psychiatrist who combined family therapy with
hypnosis, developed his own approach known
as “Ericksonian hypnotherapy,” which combined
informal conversation with complex language
combinations. Years later, the “PUAs,” or “Pick
Up Artists,” modeled their “work” after his. They
have deliberately corrupted the idea of strategic
mind control to get laid, which is theoretically
genius, if you’re a creepy guy. It’s perfect for dorks
who would rather hypnotize someone than learn
how to charm them.
Hypnosis can be used to seduce someone you
don’t know or relax someone you do.
Sex therapists use hypnosis in couples
counseling to heighten sexual awareness and
reduce performance problems, such as premature
ejaculation, or trouble keeping it up for as
long as he needs to. Dr. Ava Cadell, author of
Neuroloveology, and founder of the Loveology
University, creates short hypnosis scripts for
couples to read to each other.
“Stress and anxiety manifests itself as
premature ejaculation,” she explains. “Anxiety
creates release of adrenaline from the adrenal
gland that constricts the blood vessels, including
those that lead to the penis,” she says.
The latest trend in erotic hypnosis is YouTube
videos. Dozens of sites promising a “touch-free
orgasm” have popped up like boners, promising
an “orgasm on demand” by just listening and
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relaxing. But Dr. Cadell says, “People should be
cautious and go to a certified hypnotherapist in order to
be monitored and avoid any side effects, such as nausea,
panic attacks, creation of false memories, dizziness or
other risks.” Also, a hypnosis strobe in a video can set
off someone’s epilepsy, so don’t try this at home.
Many of the sites feature a retro-looking sci-fi
hypnotic spiral and a sexy woman’s voice instructing
the listener to relax and breath. “An energy surges as
the voice you hear makes your body tingle,” says one.
Another video promising a “hands free orgasm” by
a woman who performs her act as entertainment on
cruise ships says, “Your fear of the unknown is replaced
with the cycling energy. You now fully submit to the
suggestion of intense orgasms.” You are getting horny.
Hypnosis in general changes someone’s beliefs and
creates a “new belief.” Dr. Cadell, herself a certified
hypnotherapist, says, “To eliminate negative thoughts
that create stress and anxiety, you must disconnect your
mind from your body.”
While Dr. Cadell and other sex therapists use
principles of hypnosis to help couples eliminate stress
and become more relaxed for sex, hypnosis also has
some interesting applications in the BDSM world.
For those into hardcore bondage and submission,
the hypnosis is part of the “session” that has a pre-
written “script” of (always) consensual activities. For
people skilled at this, the “Master” or Dominatrix
artfully and skillfully dominates the submissive while
sexually teasing him or her so the submissive wants
more. Hypnosis goes well with the power exchange that
occurs in an extreme, kinky, and dominant/submissive
sexual scenario. I swear, when you’re getting tied up
in elaborate rope bondage with a gag ball stuck in your
mouth and nipple clamps that are too tight, it always
helps to be hypnotized.
A submissive of a dominant who trains “adult slaves”
in the BDSM lifestyle told me that “hypnosis separates
the dominant and submissive,” putting them in their
separate spaces as two beings. One controls the other as
the submissive goes into what she calls “the sub space.”
For women the dynamic is a bit different. For us,
it’s not so much about performance as it is about
relaxation. The thrill of BDSM is for one person to
completely dominate another person for mutual sexual
pleasure. For extreme bondage players where one
person is completely immobilized, hypnosis helps the
person relax into a new psychological mindset.
Guys who have a “hypnosis fetish” are often amateur
or professional hypnotists (“hypnodommes”) who
talk women into a touchless orgasm through a voice-
controlled hypnosis ritual. The excitement here is the
mental control rather than the physical. One “Hypno
Daddy” called “Cuff’s Master” who uses hypnotism
in his sexual scenarios explains his ritual: “I start with
a progressive relaxation exercise, and then suggest
feelings of pleasure. I then suggest she’s being tickled.
This leads to her taking off her clothes as I suggest that
she’s feeling the best oral sex of her life. I then have
her touch her body, continuing the erotic buildup. I
continue to gradually build up to her orgasm, initially
denying the release. I then make her have an orgasm
on command. I then turn her into a chicken, and have
her dance to sexy music. I ‘freeze’ her mid-dance, and
trigger another orgasm. I have her tell me her sexual
fantasies. I then have her masturbate while I explore her
fantasies while I play with her some more and she has
more orgasms.”
The only guilt here might be turning someone into a
chicken.
Anka Radakovich is a legendary sex columnist who wrote a groundbreaking column for Details magazine. Currently she writes for British GQ and
Sexpert.com. She is the author of three books, including her newest, The Wild Girls Club, Part 2. She has appeared multiple times on TV talk shows,
including eight appearances with Conan O’Brien. She is also a certified sexologist. We are thrilled to have her as a contributor. Follow Anka Radakovich
on Twitter: @ankarad.